How to Know if Someone Truly ❤️ Loves You
Short Summary:
This video discusses how to determine if someone truly loves you, using a framework of four pillars: freedom, totality, fidelity, and fruitfulness. The speakers, Jackie and Bobby Angel, draw heavily on Catholic theology, referencing marriage vows and the nature of God's love as a model. They argue that true love is freely given, encompasses the whole person, is faithful and exclusive, and bears positive fruit in the lives of both individuals and their community. The video encourages viewers to assess their relationships based on these four pillars and to not settle for less than true love. No specific technologies are mentioned.
Detailed Summary:
The video begins by introducing the concept of discerning true love, using the analogy of the questions asked during a Catholic wedding ceremony. The core argument is that true love can be identified through four pillars:
Section 1: Freedom: True love is not forced or coerced. Individuals should feel free within the relationship, free from disordered attachments (e.g., addiction, pornography) that hinder their ability to love freely. The speakers emphasize the importance of not feeling trapped or afraid to communicate openly. They state, "Love cannot be forced, it cannot be coerced."
Section 2: Totality: True love embraces the entirety of a person – heart, mind, body, and soul – including their flaws and past experiences. It's not just about physical or emotional pleasure but a complete acceptance of the individual. The speakers warn against relationships based solely on using someone for personal gratification, stating, "If they're only using you for the physical, sexual, or emotional pleasure they can get from you...that's not love." They emphasize unconditional love, similar to God's love, which doesn't depend on conditions or change. "I love you period," they explain.
Section 3: Fidelity: True love is faithful and exclusive. It's not just about words but consistent actions demonstrating commitment and loyalty. The speakers contrast this with relationships where actions contradict words, highlighting the importance of faithfulness as a reflection of God's steadfast love. They note that true love involves prioritizing the relationship and spending quality time together. They caution against settling for relationships based on inertia ("we've spent so much time here, we might as well").
Section 4: Fruitfulness: True love bears positive fruit, both spiritually and, in marriage, physically (children). This fruitfulness extends beyond the couple, positively impacting their community and relationships with others. The speakers mention the "fruits of the spirit" (joy, peace, love, kindness, etc.) and emphasize that a healthy relationship should help both individuals grow closer to God and a more virtuous life, not lead them towards sin. They ask the crucial question: "Are they leading me to Heaven?"
The video concludes with a call to action, urging viewers to assess their relationships based on these four pillars and to not settle for anything less than true love. The speakers repeatedly emphasize the importance of avoiding settling for lust or being used, asserting that everyone deserves "real love."